The ten vitamins of love necessary for success

True success is not based on how much wealth or power one has amassed. To experience inner and outer success, it is essential to fulfill our emotional needs for love and support. Without the support of love, we tend to look back with resentment and shame and miss the important lessons and growth.

When we are happy we are getting exactly the kind of love we need. If we are unhappy it is always because we are somehow deficient in a particular kind of love. Happiness is our true nature and to experience and connect with it we simply need to feel a particular kind of love and support.

Receiving love gives us the power we need to connect with our true selves. The soul needs different kinds of love to grow and express itself fully through the mind, heart and body. The mind, heart and body work with the soul as follows;

a) The mind assist’s the soul in fulfilling its purpose in the world by intention, setting goals, positive thinking and believing.

b) The heart assist the soul by drawing in what it needs to grow

c) The senses feed the soul by providing necessary information and pleasurable experiences in the outer world.

To make a connection to our souls, we must be able to open our hearts and receive the kind of love we need. According to John Gray, We need ten kinds of love ,which he refers to as vitamins, to function as God intended us to and to be successful in life. These are,

1) Vitamin G1- Love and support from God. In other words we need a relationship with God to function properly in this world.

2) Vitamin P1- Love and support of our parents

3) Vitamin F- Love and support of family, friends, and having fun.

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Real and True Love Defined

Human beings are a product of creation. Evolutionist may argue against this, and that is their prerogative which nevertheless does not change the truth. Anyway, considering that humans are created beings, they must start with their creator to understand themselves. For this reason, God has given them a manual in the form of the Bible for all truths.

Love, as a word is uttered or confessed so easily and so loosely. Many will say “I love it”, I love him/her” in reference to their emotional feelings. But what really is love? Is it an emotion that changes with circumstances? How does one attain or experience love and how is it manifested?

The Bible teaches that “God is love” 1 John 4:8. Notice it says God is love not love is God. The world has turned the word around and in the process contaminated our understanding of love. When we turn the words around we define God based on our shallow understanding of love

People assume that love is what makes a person feel good regardless of what that means. For this reason it is okay to sacrifice moral principles and others rights in order to obtain such “love”. But real love is the exact opposite and is not selfish. Real love is like God who is holy, just and perfect.

If we truly love God we will try to emulate Him in love. When asked what the greatest commandment was, Christ answered, “ You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart, with all your soul, and with all your mind. This is the first and great commandment. And for the second is like it: You shall love your neighbor as yourself ” Mathew 22: 37-39.

One will notice that the second greatest commandment hinges on the first. To really understand love, we must first experience the love of God. Before we can know how to love ourselves and others we must first experience God’s love which is giving, freeing and affirming.

Before being crucified, Jesus Christ told His disciples that “ As the Father loved me, I also have loved you; abide in my love. If you keep my commandments, you will abide in My love, just as I have kept my Father’s commandments and abide in His love” John 15: 11. Christ was in effect passing on to his disciples what He had received from God the Father, which is love, and was asking his disciples to pass this love to others.

Christ also showed that the condition to enjoying this love required obedience to His commandments. After teaching about what was required to abide in the love of God, Christ then goes ahead and gives His commandment which is “that you love one another as I have loved you. Greater love has no one than this, than to lay down one’s life for his friends. You are my friends if you do whatever I command you. ---- These things I command you, that you love one another” John 15:  12-13, 17.

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Four Steps to personal success

The secret of getting what you want and wanting what you have is first learning how to be happy, loving, confident and peaceful regardless of your outer conditioning. Personal success comes from within and is achieved when you are able not only to be yourself but also to love yourself. It is feeling confident, happy and powerful in the process of doing what you want to do.  

If you are already happy and you know that you are not dependent on more money to be happy, greater wealth can make you happier but is not the condition for your happiness. The more you think that money is capable of making you happy the more you give away your power to be happy without it. In his book “How to get what you want and want what you have”, John Gray suggests the following four steps in achieving personal success;

Step one: Set your intention- Recognize where you are now and clearly see where you need to go to achieve the right balance of inner and outer success for you. In other words “be transformed by the renewing of your mind, that you may prove what is that good and acceptable and perfect will of God” Romans 12:2. Ask God for the direction of your life.

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Exercising Goodness to others

A lot of us would probably do good if we were asked to or if there was something to gain by doing so. How many times have you known that someone needed help and you acted without being asked? What about when someone asked you for help? Did you ask them to come back letter because you wanted them to find someone else to help? Scripture is very emphatic on the issue of helping or exercising kindness to others particularly those in need. The book of Proverbs teaches that “he who has pity on the poor lends to the Lord, and He will pay back what he has given” Proverbs 19:17.


If society functioned the way God intended it to we would have few people living in the kind of misery that we witness today. Greed and lack of love has infiltrated our thinking and the saying that it is a world where only the fittest survive becomes true. In the book of Deuteronomy God told the children of Israel that, “you shall not harden your heart nor shut your hand from your poor brother, but you shall open your hand wide to him and willingly lend him sufficient for his need, whatever he needs—. For the poor will never cease from the land, therefore I command you, saying, ‘You shall open your hand wide to your brother, to your poor and your needy, in your hand,’” Deuteronomy 15:8, 11.

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